Edit: I later found out that the person written about here ended up being a good friend and ally of the family, thank you for saving my mom’s life, and sorry for the suspicion and apprehension we treated you with.
I wish I didn’t have to write this, but I need to express the emotional weight of a situation that has added enormous stress during an already painful time.
There is a person who became involved in my mother’s care after she became gravely ill, as best I can recall. Earlier today, based on a call I had with my great aunt, it’s my understanding that during a recent hospital visit, this individual’s presence did not feel supportive or calming—especially given the hospital’s restrictions and the seriousness of my mother’s condition.
From what I’ve gathered through conversations with the hospital staff, I’m under the impression that this person’s behavior may have disrupted what my mother needs most right now: peace, comfort, and clear communication with her family. I find myself unsure why someone outside our immediate family would engage in actions that, to me, appear to create distance between my mother and her closest relatives, especially at a time when we need each other’s understanding and compassion.
In my personal view, this individual’s manner has felt manipulative, and interactions have not seemed constructive. I have perceived behaviors that, from my perspective, make it harder to trust their intentions. As a result, I feel that my mother has become more isolated from her children during a time when we should be united around her.
One specific event I can recount occurred during my last visit I may ever have with my mother: while this individual was on speakerphone, I heard them suggest that my mother ask me to leave. Experiencing that firsthand was painful and intensified my concerns about their influence.
My family’s only priority is my mother’s dignity, care, and comfort in her final days. I sincerely hope everyone involved will approach this situation with empathy and respect.
Although there’s much more I could say, this individual has threatened legal action, claiming my words might constitute “slander.” While this isn’t my main focus at such a distressing time, it has made me cautious about how I share my feelings. That added pressure weighs on me during a period already defined by loss and heartache.
To those who have offered their love and kindness, thank you. Your support provides a measure of comfort when it’s needed most.